Gibberish

There is nothing like quality conversation. Someone who possesses fine conversational skills always gets a plus in my book. But that isn’t what this is about. This is about the fact, that people love to talk about OTHER people for no good reason at that. “Oh girl..did you hear who myesha was talking about?” “mmph I heard Rob was smashing all through that” boys and girls [Because I clearly can not call you men and women] there’s something very wrong with this picture. Someone else’s life should not be the topic of your conversations. It seems that you are always minding soemone else’s when you should be minding yours. Nobody’s perfect, but stop discussing other people’s flaws just to avert away from yours. If anything you get even more of a side eye because you have no room to judge, leave that up to the good man above. Gossip happens, but think about if you were in the same position. DO You like to be discussed, ? People should not think they know more about others than they know about themselves, that’s when something is clearly wrong. With all that’s going on in the world im sure you can find something to talk about, you don’t always have to downplay others and try to feel superior. And you should definetely make sure all your affairs are intact before you go digging into someone else’s . Just a thought

To Use Or Not to Use : Should NEVER be the Question

When it comes to condoms. Safe sex is the best sex. That’s my motto and i’m sticking with it for life. Anyone who thinks otherwise should really have their privates checked out. Nobody is really certain of another person’s sexual history. You don’t know what they have – hell THEY MIGHT NOT EVEN KNOW. Most of the times you don’t show symptoms of an std, not only that but you never want to turn your life around without being prepared with an unplanned pregnancy. I get the whole “it feels better” thing – but it just isn’t worth it to me. I think to prevent all unhealthy risk that you should really use a condom, it’s safer for you and the next person. Millions of deaths, and abortions could be prevented by simply 10 seconds worth of our time by wrapping it up. You’re being lazy, selfish, and only thinking short term satisfaction rather than long term harm towards your body. And WOMEN YOU CAN CONTROL THIS. If you don’t feel comfortable, don’t listen to his lies, “only one time”  “you’re the only person I want to be with” the “I promise you it feels so great” And say NO. I am not boo boo the fool nor will I be played like one. So just know, you may not enter between these legs until you can learn how to use one. If you don’t agree with me, then you definetely aren’t someone I want to further relations with.

We aren’t all the same

So stop blaming the next, for the mistakes of your ex. If you don’t like the person you are with, then change the person you are with. I don’t mean try to change them literally – but switch up the people you tend to deal with. Everybody has their faults and flaws, you should recognize them before you get into a relaionship – not after the fact. If you know who you are dealing with before you decide to become comiited then you are less likely to complain and bitch about who you’re with because YOU KNEW WHAT YOU WERE GETTING YOURSELF INTO. It’s pretty sad that everytime I encounter a new person, it seems they are so damaged from the past. All I can think of is what am I getting myself into and are they worth it. I have the capability to love, and love deep. But if you can’t show me that you can move on, then sadly I WILL HAVE TO MOVE ON. I can’t hang on to someone who has a mentality like that. It shows what kind of level you are on. Most grown mature folks knows that the past was the past and every person is not the same – therefore you can not treat each person like that. If he did this, I’m not going to blame you for that. Especially when YOU aren’t the one who caused my pain and hurt. I’m going to look towards the future and building something great with someone BETTER instead of staying stuck in rewind.

If you seek NEGATIVE attention..

Then that is what you will recieve plain and simple. Don’t put yourself in that position. Watch who you hangout with and associate yourself with, because if they are seen in a harsh light then you might be put there as well. May not be fair, but that’s the way it is. Birds of a feather flock together. And if you put your self out there in a certain way, or dress in a certain fashion you know exactly what you are asking for. Switch it up quick. If your ass and tits are hanging out in all your social networks don’t get offended when you’re being blown up with messages about giving up the goods. I’d think you’re easy and don’t value yourself. What else is anyone else supposed to think? Reputation isn’t everything but it does matter. And once it’s tarnished and ruined it’s hard to gain it back. Carry yourself with dignity, respect, and class. Though we can’t revolve our lives around what other people think, we live in a world where judgement of our peers, bossses, teachers, and family DOES MATTER. If you don’t want to be seen a certain way or in a certain aspect then change it. But if you simply don’t give a damn then do what you have to do. Just be ready for the consequences.

Your $$$ Doesn’t Matter

Some of you have had the most fucked up relationships towards women AND I GET IT. But all women are not gold diggers and all women are not out to get your cash. We can make it on our own and probably handle it ten times better than you will ever be able to. You guys are so confused, get mad when a woman wants to be independent and have their own thing going, but then you turn around and say we’re digging into your stack. First of all, if you f*ck with women like that, you need to look in the mirror and determine your lack of good judgement. Trust me there are some very trifling women out there, whose only goal is to get money the quickest and easiest way. But If I see that i’m being used, I won’t stay in a predicament and cry about it to the genral public. get smarter. If you associate with the right type of ladies, you won’t have this problem. AND MEN ARE GOLD DIGGERS TOO. Is what alot of people fail to realize that. The little things add up. No I will not pay your rent, No I will not pay for your gas, And if we go out we’re going it dutch unless you so kindly offer. Erases all the confusion. My vagina can not be bought, and neither can my love. So no thanks, but I don’t need your money. “I got my own” Good Day.

Attitude

Everyday is a brand new day, you should treat it like that.  Stop living in the past, and live in the present, and hope for the best for your future. Everyday, I see some person walking around with a chip on their shoulder or an attitude. You can tell it all in their body language, presence, the way they treat others. It is pretty sad. No man, is going to want to approach a lady with a bad attitude towards the world. You can’t live your life that way, or you’re going to be real lonely REAL FAST. Every person is not the same, therefore you shouldn’t treat them that way. Everybody has been through something in their life, but some of the people who have had it THE WORST throughout life still manage to find something to smile about. So what is your excuse? Do not let your circumstances define who you are. Take the high road and have an optimistic viewpoint in life. People with attitude always have something to complain about, something that isn’t right, something they wish they had e.t.c. Well why don’t you do something about it instead of acting like the world deserves to be spat on? I’m so tired of people complaining about things they have the power to change and act like it’s the worlds fault! TAKE REPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE!  I have let go many people in my life due to this, because I don’t need the negativity around and neither do you. It’s not hard to be happy and look at the brighter sides of situations. Unless you learn to do that, things will never get better for you.

My Job Is Not to Serve You

If you are the man I am going to spend the rest of my life committed to a.k.a MY HUSBAND , then you will be served and catered to your every need and want as long as the same goes for me. I’ll do for you, what you do for me. Otherwise, I am not obligated to fulfill all nor any of your wishes and wants and necessities. I don’t know where the mindset came in that women cater to men, (damn you destiny’s child ) and please their man to keep around but the same doesn’t go the same way. You’ve got to be kidding me. If you can’t show me the same respect then I will have to tell you GoodBye. No man is too special to not show a woman that he loves or cares about her. No woman is your slave, and should not be treated that way. If you are a REAL man, you will show your appreciation for all the things a woman does and return the favor to her. You guys need to comprehend no man is above any woman.